friends

I have realized lately that because of the changes in my life (my divorce, my marriage, the birth of my son, among others that I can’t right now place) I have gone from being a very popular friend, to having very few, if any, friends at all.

Honestly, this scares the crap out of me.

I have watched my mother be friendless almost her entire adult life. She spends virtually all of her time now taking care of her parents (my grandparents – one with Alzheimer’s and the other with more physical maladies that I can fit into one blog post). The days she is not there, she is working part-time for the health department helping mothers who are on the WIC program learn how to feed their children with allergies and sicknesses that I hope to never have to understand. Her best friend in my sister. She takes the time every now and then to make a trip to visit my sister and her family (which is about 3 hours away) and it gives her a nice break from being the sole caregiver for my grandparents.

I don’t want to be like her one day.

I can name four people I consider my true friends. Each I have known for over 10 years. I don’t talk to any of them every day.

I realize that there are people who once were a part of my life that no longer are because the only time they reach out to me is when they want something from me. I don’t care to be someone who is taken advantage of because of certain skills I possess. The people (some of them in my extended family) that I have chosen to exclude from my everyday life because of their snobbish behavior are assuredly not worried that I don’t include them in my inner circle. If they were, they would make more of an effort to be a part of mine and my children’s lives. I absolutely hope and pray that I raise both Janie and Si to be better people than some of the adults they encounter.  

obnoxious

Just because you think you're right doesn't mean that you are. Everyone has an opinion. You don't need to be the loudest and most obnoxious person just to get your voice heard. The squeaky wheel may get the oil, but it may also get replaced.

You might feel better for a little while if you prove your point. But you will likely cultivate an enemy or at least some animosity between you and the person you just caused to feel inferior.

Never interrupt someone when they are speaking. Unless someone is on fire, about to fall off a cliff, or drowning, let whoever is talking finish their thought. When you interrupt someone you are subconsciously telling them that their voice is not as important as yours, therefore they feel as though they aren't worthy. It's a horrible feeling.